You continued climbing that mountain in 2018. Every step across rocky unstable ground was a step toward rebuilding. Yes, you were knocked down in 2017. You saw how real and raw life could be with the passing of a loved one and watching another crumble in front of you. But you were strong and kept the faith for them. You never let go of your dreams through all the struggles of trying to get back on top. The most important lesson of all? Dreams are that much more meaningful when you fight for them with all you’ve got. You kept going.
You never let go of your unwavering faith that you’ll make it happen. You are making your dreams happen. In every moment of darkness, of self-doubt, of fearful thoughts, you reminded yourself that you would follow your choice to follow your heart and dreams to the end.
You learned that dreams don’t come easy. Sometimes they can swallow you whole, chew you up, and spit you back out again. But you kept going.
The desire to live true to yourself and be who you are meant to be outweighed all the tough stuff. Because who are you if you’re not true to yourself?
You learned forgiveness. You learned it is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You cried. Forgiveness taught you that it’s something you do all the time, not just once in a while.
Forgiveness and love taught you that every day there will be something to forgive for and something to love for.
For 2019, embrace creativity and imagination. Align your life. Let your soul sparkle and shine.
Take your time creating the dream you envision. There’s no need to hustle. You can still work hard and not drain your soul’s well.
Seek out the light, follow it as far as it takes you. Let white space and stillness be your guide.
Transformation is just around the corner.
Look straight into 2019 and tell it, I want to align my life with my dreams. I’ll keep living simple, keep marching toward the life I dream of, I am creating it one step at a time.
Dear 2019, a transformation is just around the corner. I am manifesting the life I dream of.
Reflections on 2018
Happy New Year! Welcome to a year with less darkness and a year where we bring everything back into alignment. It’s been a bit of a dark time, hasn’t it? Wherever I looked in 2018, I saw struggle, experienced the world’s pain, grief and suffering, and sadly, I started to question my faith in humanity.
As much as it pains me to say it, I saw more selfishness and entitlement than ever before in 2018. It was a rather negative year. People leaned into disrespecting each other way too much.
If there’s one word I could apply to 2018 it would be overcoming. I finally understood a lot of the obstacles that appeared in my path in 2017 and worked hard to overcome them. And, at the same time, I worked at overcoming the impact of what was going on in the world.
Now, I’m not one for watching the news, but it was hard to avoid what was going on in the world. Even though I don’t watch TV or scroll through Twitter looking for the news, it still finds it’s way to you. Why do I avoid the news? Well, I’m super sensitive and I don’t like all the negativity. And no, it’s not a form of avoidance. I prefer to focus my energy on making a positive impact on the world and doing what I can to change things.
It’s hard though, not to let the negativity swallow you whole when you’re surrounded by it.
I get it. I know it’s hard. Hence the word “overcoming” for 2018.
In 2018, I was still dealing with a lot of the aftermath of 2017. I was still working to overcome my struggles of feeling lost and what to do with my life.
But in the end, I worked hard to put good habits and routines back in place and overcome some of the addictions I’d fallen back into like sugary foods, coffee, wine, and unhealthy eating and unhealthy thought patterns.
What I discovered in 2018
- I survived. I’m stronger, wiser and more experienced in rebuilding good habits and routines.
- I accepted that I may need an entire year to rebuild. And 2018 was my rebuilding year. It’s interesting to look back on the past few years; 2016 was decompress, 2017 was heal, 2018 was rebuild, and now, here we are at alignment. It’s interesting to see the progression, and my choice of words isn’t it?
- I realized that I needed to focus on discipline and commitment. Without either of these qualities, it’s tough to move life forward and very easy to fall back into unhealthy habits or thought patterns. Both discipline and committing to change are the hard path; they take thought, effort and time. I began to wonder if I had taken too much time to decompress and heal that it allowed me to fall into a state of too much ease and comfort.
- I struggled with motivation. I knew 100% that I needed to earn more, and I wanted to move my business forward, and yet I struggled with keeping myself motivated. I learned that motivation is a mythical beast. You don’t simply wake up inspired every day to work on your dream life. There are off days. And I learned that it’s okay for that to happen. But at the same time, you have to pull up your big girl pants and do one thing to get you closer to what you dream of. In simpler terms, motivation equals take one small step each day no matter how you feel. Eventually, you’ll gain momentum toward what you’re striving for.
The most important lesson?
Never, ever, ever give up. #keepgoing
Don’t listen to that little voice that tells you to take the easy way out. When it pops up, tell it why you refuse to take the easy path.
For me, I squashed that little negative voice by telling it I never want to go back to corporate. I never want to commute for 3-4 hours a day again. I never want to be managed again.
I attached feeling to those thoughts. I let my mind go to the place of what would happen if I went back to corporate and a chaotic, overwhelming life and I shuddered at the thought.
It was a reality check each and every time.
We all struggle with being stuck. We all feel lost at one time or another.
Sure, it sucks to feel like you’ve lost your way, but it happens.
Sometimes you get disconnected. Sometimes you forget to listen to your intuition, to your gut.
But here’s the thing, you don’t always have to know where you’re going.
It’s okay to wander off the path a little. Magical things happen when you take the road less travelled or follow the unexpected.
You’re allowed to wander and be curious.
You’re allowed to revel in the mysterious.
You are not a failure and you’re not less than for being lost.
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
And so, a year of rebuilding brings us to 2019. The year where I bring as much of life as I can muster into alignment.
Read past years’ “Dear” posts:
Intentions for 2019
The theme for 2019 is alignment – how can I enrich my life as much as possible in 2019.
As usual, there are no resolutions, no goals in excess. I’ve done both in past years without much success. But life is all about figuring out what works for you. I know that resolutions are useless and overwhelming to pile onto the beginning of a year. I believe in goals with soul and feeling and intentions. I loathe SMART goals from my days in corporate.
The start of a New Year is a time to reflect and to check in on the vision you have for your life. And what better way to do that than with intentions. Intentions are plans and goals you make to align with your path in life. They’re more attainable, and you can work towards them at your own pace. When setting intentions, focus on the journey rather than the destination.
It’s all about honouring your journey every day and getting yourself one step closer to your dream life.
Myself? I still have a lot of work ahead of me. I need to stay focused and disciplined with the good habits and routines I’ve injected back into my life. But I’ve got intentions set and broken them down into a plan to keep my life moving toward the one I dream of.
The plan for 2019 looks like this:
It’s all about how can I enrich my life. One thing I’ve learned is that if I want a business of my own, I am my business’s biggest asset. Which means, of course, I need to take care of numero uno or it all falls apart.
- Mindful, intentional and simple living.
- Meditation for more mindfulness and less stress.
- Self-Care so I can feel my best and nurture my creativity.
- Healthy Eating so I can feel well from the inside out.
- Fitness to keep my body energized.
- Writing for reflection, self-awareness and setting intentions (and relieving stress).
And what I want to accomplish in crucial areas of life:
Fitness – I want to dedicate more time to my yoga practice. I’m also committing to adding more strength training and spinning sessions into the mix.
Personal – One of my intentions for 2019 is to commit to helping others with reinventing their life.
I want to go down the road of reinvention. I want to document the journey. I’m asking myself:
What do I want to do with my remaining years? What legacy do I want to leave?
I want to leave a positive impact on the world by helping others achieve what they dream of.
Reinvention includes all things simple, minimal and starting and growing your own biz. That’s where I’m at right now. I crave simplicity, not chaos and overwhelm. I desire peace and calm. I want to be surrounded by only the basics. If I could live solely by candlelight and sleep in a room with only a fireplace, I’d do it.
Nutrition – I want to continue with my Naturopath visits. I’m also very much into Aviva Romm’s Adrenal Thyroid Revolution book. I’d like to finish her 4-week program and get my body feeling great again.
Career – I’ve been setting new goals for The Classy Simple Life and a big one for 2019 is to keep evolving and providing you with the best content on minimalism and simplicity, wellness, habit change, mindsets and starting and growing your own biz. I want to connect with you on reinventing life and helping you achieve your dream life.
For my freelance work, I’m looking to pull that all into alignment. That starts with getting my freelance site up and working on building my client list.
Relationships – I’m very focused on giving back to my parents. They’ve been there for me through all this craziness since my divorce in 2010 up until now and have been super understanding. I want to start earning a lot more so I can provide more for them and eventually take care of them (they’re in their 70’s now).
On a more personal level, I see myself starting to date again in the last half of 2019. I feel that I’m ready for it.
Although I’ve felt as though life hasn’t been moving forward, it indeed has. When writing this post, I read through my previous “Dear” posts and realized I’ve undergone great change. Through all the struggles, there has been light in the darkness and I’ve been incredibly blessed. It’s hard when you feel you should be progressing faster. I’m hard on myself that way.
But with each new year, I’ve grown more than I can imagine. Making time for reflection has helped me understand the amount of growth I’ve had.
Rebuilding a life isn’t easy. But at the same time, it’s a miraculous experience to go through. To witness the transformation and be mindful the entire way is something I wouldn’t trade for anything. Transformation brings us closer to who we are meant to be. Through each struggle and triumph, we grow into ourselves.
I wish you a year filled with discovery, love, alignment, transformation and simplicity. As always, I’m grateful for you. Receiving your emails and notes through social media is a blessing and a warm hug. With each one I receive I smile and send a blessing your way. I am reminded that life is all about community.
So for 2019, let’s make alignment the order of the day. And I promise to you that I’ll share every transformative moment of reinvention.
We’re in this together.
How was 2018 for you? What were your moments of struggle and triumph? What little wisdoms did you learn about yourself?